Category Archives: Grief

The Peace of Stoicism (#poem)

The Stoics all counsel the same. Contemplate life and accept Death without too much disruption. They counsel the same when You are overwrought, but Flood you with a tsunami of tears When their turn comes. Seneca condemned his own sobs; … Continue reading

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In Defense of Vile Rottenflush (#poem)

The venerable X. J. Kennedy used a poem about “vile rottenflush” to illustrate bad poetry in his seminal textbook, Introduction to Poetry. The poem, he explains, was submitted to the equally venerable Paris Review, but he does not credit (blame?) … Continue reading

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Frequent Death and Daily Disquiet (#poem)

So many people died that year that I developed A permanent anxiety about companion mortality. Guns, cancer, fire, and water all took people from me. After an absence of a few months, a friend once Called just to say, “You … Continue reading

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The Best Way to Grieve for a Child (#poem #napowrimo)

They never changed that room. Dolls, teddy bears, trains, And transformers all hold space, Lock time in perpetual stasis. When death comes life stops. Family said they should pack Things away. It’s too hard To be reminded day after day … Continue reading

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On the Disastrous Art of Losing (#poem #NaPoWriMo)

On our first meeting, she Described me as a “near Buddhist,” Meaning, of course, that I had The ascetic qualities of a monk.   And it was true that Siddhartha Helped me lose my appreciation For things. You learn first … Continue reading

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Life, Love, and Leaving in Livingston, Texas (#poem #NaPoWriMo)

In a previous century my grandfather died Only weeks after my great uncle. A few weeks later, my grandmother Made a quick trip to the grocery store And returned to find her house in flames. Having lost her brother, husband, … Continue reading

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Ricky Gervais and the Wrong Way to Grieve

After Life, created by Ricky Gervais, seems to be a quest to show just what it would mean to grieve in the wrong way. While grief counselors and well-meaning supporters will often assure us there is “no right or wrong … Continue reading

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#PleaseHearWhatImNotSaying Poetry Anthology and Me

I am thrilled to have two poems in the new anthology, “Please Hear What I’m Not Saying,” edited by poet Isabelle Kenyon. The profits of the anthology will benefit the UK charity, MIND, which promotes mental health services and support … Continue reading

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April is the Cruelest Month: Help Prevent Suicides

I’m a depressive. It has been some time since suicidal ideation, depersonalisation, and derealisation enveloped my pshche and smothered me in a warm fog. Still, being a depressive is like being an alcoholic. It never really goes away. “My name … Continue reading

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How to Support a Mourning Man

When Olympian gymnast John Orozco made it onto the US Olympics team after recovering from an Achilles tendon injury and, more importantly, the loss of his mother, he wept openly with a mixture of joy and profound grief. We can’t … Continue reading

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